How do you have emotionally safe sex?

“An awful lot of western 20 something relationships are about fucking. And that’s the only word to describe it…it’s sport sex…and that’s a very dangerous thing emotionally…there’s no such thing as emotionally safe sex….?”

How do you have emotionlly safe sex?

I’ve been stumped and preoccupied by that question all day.

Being a sexuality education trainer, I could advise you on how you could minimise your risk for unwanted pregnancies and STIs. I could impart skills that enable you to communicate and negotiate better for what you want. Being a scientist, I could explain (or point you to references to explain) “sex/sexuality” at every level, from the evolutionary to the molecular level. I might even be able to do that for “love”.

But to that question, of emotionally safe sex, I can’t use that line “I’ll find out and get back to you with an answer”.  I’ve decided to do a “poll-the-audience” here.