Sexual abuse doesn’t happen to females only.

I’m particularly concerned about rape cases that happen to boys/men.

Most of the rape of men cases that go reported are committed by strangers/”hostile” people.

However, we know that 90% of female rape cases are committed by trusted family/friends, and that these tend to be the unreported ones.

I suspect that an even greater proportion of male rape cases also get committed by trusted friends/family, and that societal pressures & biased laws mean that the under reporting of male rape cases & lack of support is worse.

 

 

http://news.asiaone.com/News/The%2BNew%2BPaper/Story/A1Story20090518-142150.html –Sex monster looks for ‘easy targets’ in library

In this article, the victim was a male child and it was reported because the mother was observant. Also, the perpertrator is a male stranger. I’m wondering (wondering, because no stats) what if it’s a 14 yr old boy and the perpertrator is a 29 yr old male good buddy? Would that be reported?

Of great concern too, the confession:  

“HE WAS arrested for performing oral sex on a 6-year-old boy in a library toilet. After Chan Kok Weng, 29, was charged for the offence, he was sent for a psychiatric assessment. And that was when he made an explosive confession – he had been preying on young boys for about 15 years. Chan told Dr Stephen Phang, senior consultant psychiatrist at the Institute of Mental Health (IMH), that he had been a sexual predator since he was in Secondary Two. He would seek out primary schoolboys at public places and perform oral sex on them.Chan revealed to Dr Phang: ‘(I) always target young boys, less than 10 years old or 11 years old because it’s the easiest target. Most of them are Chinese… it’s easier to communicate with them’. He also said that he usually targeted ‘primary school boys because it’s easier to get trust from them.’”

 

Cases over the last 15 years go unreported —- WHY???

 

 

These are the findings of the report, on how tens of thousands of boys were sexually abused for decades in Ireland (a conservative religious nation for a good part of the last century) , and how no one bothered:

Sexual Abuse

- Sexual abuse was endemic in boys’ institutions.

- Long-term offenders repeatedly abused children wherever they worked.

- When confronted by evidence of sexual abuse, religious authorities responded by transferring the offender to another location where, in many cases, he was free to abuse again.

- Congregational authorities did not listen to or believe people who complained of sexual abuse in the past, despite extensive evidence to the contrary.

- Older boys sexually abused younger boys and the system did not offer the abused boys protection.

- A culture of silence prevented sexual abuse by members of religious orders being brought to the department’s attention.

- The Department of Education dealt inadequately with sexual abuse complaints

(http://www.independent.ie/national-news/state-of-shame-1746476.html)

I really hope someone steps forward to address this and I would want to contribute where I can too.

 

 

 

“Similarly, the Women’s Charter in Singapore has been abused by NoToRapers. It is sad to see that men in Singapore are so helpless against the these feminists.”

I personally don’t think that life is about a male vs female battle (that’s kindergarten culture!!! )

I  think that all these articles should be gender neutral — ie apply both ways, to males, females, in a marriage, gay marriage, long-term co-habition.

I completely agree, that  men have it worse when it comes to abuse, because of the culture, and the policies/practices rooted in this culture.

(This short post is writen in response to a comment (in italics) from another website.)